It was going to be short about parenting being hard
That is the downside of kids. No matter what, the possibilities are endless, and we won't know how we did.
Throughout the phases of all our lives there are times we praise our parents, and times we curse them. The best we can do is ask ourselves are we doing what we think is right, and are we giving our best. There comes a point where we can only do so much, and it's hard to watch them strike out on their own. Knowing that you gave them love and knowledge the way you knew best, should comfort you in the hard times.
While, personally, I am constantly reflecting, and find it good to do so, be wary of second guessing yourself. You are doing a fine job with her!
Also, while others criticism cannot be summarily dismissed, we must take it in stride and use it as a chance to reflect about our own values, and whether the means we employ help us to pass along those values. Anyone who uses the phrase, "it's just ______," shouldn't be given a second thought.
When it comes to computer games, television, movies, and activities, the choices parents make will shape a child's understanding of the world, and how they should both fit into that world and how they should act therein. Many parents don't take into account the little things in the shows they let their kids watch and it shines through in their attitudes. I remember my niece being 4 and watching one cartoon with rabbits, Max and Ruby, and it was a great show for awhile. She would dance and sing the theme song with my brother, but then after awhile the one rabbit, Ruby, became overly controlling in the episodes, and that behavior started to shine through in my niece. After a few days of trying to figure out where the new behavior came from, my brother saw her watching an episode of Max and Ruby, and imitating Ruby and her attitudes towards others. That's when that show was no longer allowed in the house.
Even in my older niece and nephew now, I am constantly monitoring their television when I'm around them. Too much drama on television causes them to think that is how life should be, and as they both are teenagers, they are more susceptible to act that out as they try to be more adult. There are other shows on television that I have seen them watch, and had them change the channel, because (Suite Life of Zack and Cody) the show was simply causing them to become less intelligent by watching it.
So, as long as you are moving forward, and she is continuing to grow, take criticism with a grain of salt. Reflect on what you've done, and what you're doing, but remember that you have the most influence over your daughter, and take everyday as an opportunity to further your relationship and help her have a more pleasant future that doesn't require her to rely on electronic mediums to entertain her.
Throughout the phases of all our lives there are times we praise our parents, and times we curse them. The best we can do is ask ourselves are we doing what we think is right, and are we giving our best. There comes a point where we can only do so much, and it's hard to watch them strike out on their own. Knowing that you gave them love and knowledge the way you knew best, should comfort you in the hard times.
While, personally, I am constantly reflecting, and find it good to do so, be wary of second guessing yourself. You are doing a fine job with her!
Also, while others criticism cannot be summarily dismissed, we must take it in stride and use it as a chance to reflect about our own values, and whether the means we employ help us to pass along those values. Anyone who uses the phrase, "it's just ______," shouldn't be given a second thought.
When it comes to computer games, television, movies, and activities, the choices parents make will shape a child's understanding of the world, and how they should both fit into that world and how they should act therein. Many parents don't take into account the little things in the shows they let their kids watch and it shines through in their attitudes. I remember my niece being 4 and watching one cartoon with rabbits, Max and Ruby, and it was a great show for awhile. She would dance and sing the theme song with my brother, but then after awhile the one rabbit, Ruby, became overly controlling in the episodes, and that behavior started to shine through in my niece. After a few days of trying to figure out where the new behavior came from, my brother saw her watching an episode of Max and Ruby, and imitating Ruby and her attitudes towards others. That's when that show was no longer allowed in the house.
Even in my older niece and nephew now, I am constantly monitoring their television when I'm around them. Too much drama on television causes them to think that is how life should be, and as they both are teenagers, they are more susceptible to act that out as they try to be more adult. There are other shows on television that I have seen them watch, and had them change the channel, because (Suite Life of Zack and Cody) the show was simply causing them to become less intelligent by watching it.
So, as long as you are moving forward, and she is continuing to grow, take criticism with a grain of salt. Reflect on what you've done, and what you're doing, but remember that you have the most influence over your daughter, and take everyday as an opportunity to further your relationship and help her have a more pleasant future that doesn't require her to rely on electronic mediums to entertain her.
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