Change
There may be nothing scarier than the word change, except choice. To make a change one must make a choice. Before this, one must determine a reason for change. Yet still before that, one must admit something isn't right.
The first step may be admitting there is a problem, but not necessarily. A problem means wrong, but for change; nothing has to be wrong, only not right. Therefore, a change can be needed only for improvement or to prevent a future problem. This may be why change is such a scary thing. It means admitting our own imperfection.
To understand that, we must realize that we have been misled. Many have been told you are are perfect just the way you are, and taken it at that. These same people then wonder why they get suggestions for improvement. This means a minor correction is needed in our collective brains. The statement should be revised to state that you are fine the way that you are. Perfect being an absolute it leaves no room, and makes the giver out to be a liar, and leads the receiver to resentment.
The next hard step in this line is understanding fluidity. During the course of a lifetime goals change. Unless we stop to look, we don't realize it happened. So, while conscious change becomes scary; subconscious change happens with ease. Once we are able to cross the threshold of understanding we gain a certain amount of control over a change that isn't fully under our own control. Yet has control over us.
This duality of ourselves isn't easy to comprehend in our linear existences. The relinquishing of control gives us control. Bringing the subconscious into the conscious makes the easy known, yet the hard easy. Our lives intertwine with those around us; making a seemingly linear existence make multiple circles. While journeys may end where they began you will not be the same. Thus is our life, a series of choices that bring about change. How scary it is thinking of all that lies ahead and what little lies behind. Change by your choice or someone else's, that is the constant in all our lives.
The first step may be admitting there is a problem, but not necessarily. A problem means wrong, but for change; nothing has to be wrong, only not right. Therefore, a change can be needed only for improvement or to prevent a future problem. This may be why change is such a scary thing. It means admitting our own imperfection.
To understand that, we must realize that we have been misled. Many have been told you are are perfect just the way you are, and taken it at that. These same people then wonder why they get suggestions for improvement. This means a minor correction is needed in our collective brains. The statement should be revised to state that you are fine the way that you are. Perfect being an absolute it leaves no room, and makes the giver out to be a liar, and leads the receiver to resentment.
The next hard step in this line is understanding fluidity. During the course of a lifetime goals change. Unless we stop to look, we don't realize it happened. So, while conscious change becomes scary; subconscious change happens with ease. Once we are able to cross the threshold of understanding we gain a certain amount of control over a change that isn't fully under our own control. Yet has control over us.
This duality of ourselves isn't easy to comprehend in our linear existences. The relinquishing of control gives us control. Bringing the subconscious into the conscious makes the easy known, yet the hard easy. Our lives intertwine with those around us; making a seemingly linear existence make multiple circles. While journeys may end where they began you will not be the same. Thus is our life, a series of choices that bring about change. How scary it is thinking of all that lies ahead and what little lies behind. Change by your choice or someone else's, that is the constant in all our lives.
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